tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10415667.post221872310744965290..comments2023-07-18T05:41:20.210-07:00Comments on Alien In The Caribbean: Survival Kit 2012- Masculine Feminine Imbalance- Patriarchy’s Phobias, Isms and SchismsJessica Josephhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00918518641443769144noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10415667.post-73227802413664833682012-03-29T09:44:47.990-07:002012-03-29T09:44:47.990-07:00I just want to say thank you so much for writing t...I just want to say thank you so much for writing this post. I have sent countless people here, often men acting very defensive because they are feeling attacked, or women acting like the world owes them one. It is so wonderful to have a place where true equality, balance and love are talked about in an open and honest way that judges no one. Thank you!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11784470497181737200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10415667.post-44734526291751231202011-09-02T19:12:21.780-07:002011-09-02T19:12:21.780-07:00Hi KG,
I appreciate your observations. The conte...Hi KG, <br /><br />I appreciate your observations. The content is heavy but I hope it will lead to a bright, sunny, hopeful conclusion that lifts the weight off of both men and women. <br /><br />Women organized something called the "Slut Walks" in the US recently. It was to protest the way rape victims are treated by law inforcement, judicial officials and the media. Their message was that simply looking sexy is not an invitation to be raped because rape is an act of violence, not the result of unbridled male lust. <br /><br />I agree with this. I also think it insults men to assume that their healthy attraction to women is related to rape. <br /><br />If there is in fact any "frustration" that leads to the act of rape, it has long mutated into something else. No well-balanced man could maintain an erection when the woman he is fucking is clearly not enjoying it, screaming, crying, fighting, obviously in pain, cursing, spitting and looking at him with eyes full of disgust, anger, betrayal. <br /><br />A man who can, has actually reached the dyfunctional stage where he is turned on by another's suffering and humiliation.<br /><br />Is it natural for a normal, red-blooded male to feel attracted visually to a sexy woman?<br /><br />Yes. And men should make no apologies for wanting to admire and appreciate. <br /><br />The problem seems to be, "What happens next?"<br /><br />Just because a man is happy in his pants over the sight of a woman, does that mean the woman MUST be made aware of whether she wants to or not.<br /><br />Does that mean the man now has some assumed claim over her?<br /><br />Especially in situations where the "hook up" cannot be rationalized. What I mean is. A woman dressed sexy in a singles bar or lounge, trying to catch the attention of the guys is not the same scenario as a woman just trying to get from A to B along the street, wrapped up in her own business and thoughts. She is not looking to hook up. She is trying to get to her next meeting.<br /><br />If indeed the ONLY thing that matters in deciding to make a sexual advance or proclaim your happiness in your pants is how a woman looks (regardless of setting, time and her invitation or participation) then you are right KG. The men are being very primitive and not engaging their Yin Consciousness at all. <br /><br />I was walking down the street and some man found me attractive and started to chat me up. I am not interested. I am pre-occupied. My father just died. I have a lot on my mind and most of all, I am already in a relationship. <br /><br />I express my lack of interest. <br /><br />The man takes deep offence! He insults me. He tries to bring me down to size and ridicules the fact that I chose to wear an outfit that shows off my body in a way he finds attractive. <br /><br />In other words, "It is YOUR fault I feel this way. So now it is YOUR responsibility for helping me find some kind of satisfaction."<br /><br />Right there! He has thrown away SELF-MASTERY and personal responsibility. <br /><br />And what is SOOOO funny is that these same men get 2X more annoyed, offended when they get a dose of their own medicine and a gay man who finds them attractive makes the moves on them. Yet they still do not make the connection between how that feels and how unwanted sexual advances feels to us.Jessica Josephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00918518641443769144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10415667.post-26915713204817643672011-08-30T22:07:14.019-07:002011-08-30T22:07:14.019-07:00Where do I start.
Your stuff is so heavy I feel ...Where do I start. <br /><br />Your stuff is so heavy I feel weighted down just replying.<br /><br />Man, and I mean in men I know and many I dont, live in a world where everything is mixed up.<br /><br />We are supposed to be more developed, and more mature, but most men right now are cavemen redux in disguise (or hiding)<br /><br />You only have to walk down the average road in Paris, London or New York to see women in all kinds of undress, supposedly dealing with sophisticated men, who are literally emasculated by their inability to do ANYTHING about it.<br /><br />They cant openly ogle, desire, engage. They just have to internalise and go fantasise on their own later.<br /><br />Im tired now, but I would hazard a guess that Oscar Wildes musing that most men live lives of quiet desperation, is probably more true now than ever.<br /><br />Everything so many men want to be, seems kinda out of whack with what the world demands.<br /><br />In simplified terms, women are smarter, as they have had to be to maintain a healthy balance with a creature who is infinitely physically stronger and who uses that physicality and aggression as the key weapon , man. <br /><br />In past times, war and pillage allowed men to satisfy that basic desire to assert. <br /><br />Now ? Men are negotiating with a smarter being on their turf. For everything.KGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05135149111408227880noreply@blogger.com