February 28, 2010

Time To Grow Up Spiritually!

Joy/Gratitude/Generosity VS. Lack/Discontentment/Selfishness.



Those of us who come from a Christian background often hear much about the sin of pride. Problem is, very few people truly understand what exactly it is and so in trying to combat the sin of pride, they go after healthy thought patterns needed to ensure self-esteem. This results in believers who always feel the need to demonstrate a false kind of humility to mask their confidence and/or people who constantly feel undeserving no matter what.


"Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall." Proverbs 16:18


So to be clear, the kind of infantile pride we speak of is not confidence, self-esteem or courage to challenge, explore and demand the best from the world around you. That kind of pride is healthy.

Unhealthy pride is actually not pride at all. It is discontentment.



It stems from a fearful feeling of lack. It results in us having an unmerited sense of entitlement based in: I AM NOT ENOUGH AND THERE IS NOT ENOUGH FOR ME THEREFORE I MUST TAKE.

I know what you are saying, if we just become content with how things are, nothing will change. It is not surprising we feel this way. After all it was a very real, primal urgency that drove our survival as a species when we were constantly challenged by the wild elements. We had to be faster, braver, stronger and take as much as we could before another primitive clan or a wild animal or the natural elements took it from us. It may have helped us survive in prehistoric times when we were still finding our place in the world. So does this mean a little discontentment is a good thing?


Healthy ambition is driven by understanding one’s Divine purpose. Discontentment is driven by fear and lack.


Well, no it isn’t. Do not confuse discontentment with healthy ambition. Always remember that healthy ambition stems from understanding your Divine Purpose and being driven to become more empowered to fulfill it. You will never be complacent when you are actively working on self mastery. You do so with complete trust that the Universe will provide you with all you need for you are working in harmony with it. Discontentment on the other hand is driven by fear and lack. Now that we understand a lot more and have so much control over our world, it has become an outmoded pattern of thinking. Sensing this, spiritual teachers came into our midst to free us from this primitive, childish mode of thinking. They urge us, “Let go! Let God/Universe take care and work through us. There is abundance! God/Universe provides! Be joyful just to breathe! Be joyful just to be!”

Allowing your life to be governed by this exaggerated survival instinct will render you forever a spiritual infant. For those of us forced to de-evolve back into that discontented, survival thought pattern because of slavery and racial oppression, our challenge to rise above it is even more arduous. Those who live according to the untruth: I AM NOT ENOUGH AND THERE IS NOT ENOUGH FOR ME, have to constantly invent ways to compensate for whatever lack they feel in order to “entitle” themselves to get whatever it is they want. We have a popular name here in the Caribbean for this entitlement. My granny called it: False Pride This is the kind pride that comes before a fall. It does so by hindering our ability to be grateful. I’ll explain how.


False Pride, feelings of entitlement are all based on low self esteem stemmed from discontentment and lack. It is a syndrome we here in the Caribbean are all too familiar with and it not only inhibits our spiritual maturity but our ability to serve others wholeheartedly without feeling subservient to them.

Discontentment breeds distrust. When someone is unable to see unconditional abundance and are constantly grasping for more they are simply unable to simply surrender and accept Divine love. They just cannot trust it can be given so easily, so freely, so redundantly and seemingly blindly. In the back of their minds, there must be a catch! Or at least some way they can guarantee they can hold on to it or have it exclusively. They live in a fearful mind-space where nothing will be fair, unconditional and empowering unless they take control they invent ways to feel like they “earned” everything fair and square because of their own brilliance or physical strength or race, belief system or lifestyle choices.

Now, if you have earned something, if you believe it came by your powers or your entitlement what is there to be thankful for? All the credit goes to you not so?

How often we have heard at a funeral service,
“She earned Divine reward because she lived a good life.” Truth is, we puny beings cannot “earn” what is already freely and unconditionally given. Realizing this is the first step away from sanctimoniousness and false pride and towards real gratitude.

When you believe God loves you only through conditional means that you can satisfy, you have just taken all the wind out of the sail of raison d’ĂȘtre to be grateful and truly happy about your life- YOU WERE CREATED OUT OF AND INTENDED FOR DIVINE LOVE FROM THE VERY BEGINNING...NO STRINGS ATTACHED! You sumbit to the biggest human scam of our existence, following organizations, processes and human authorities who make you pay a price for a FREE GIFT, just so it can satisfy your mistrustful ever-lacking ego. By hindering your joyful surrender to the bliss of unconditional love, you have also given your mind, body and soul a whole heap of unnecessary stress.


I recommend watching Chocolat and paying special attention to the character played by Alfred Molina.

You have decided that you are so influential and special you can make the Almighty Creator who gave you life and in whose body you dwell, mad and not love you anymore! Now you have to become compulsive about being the best example of whatever it is you deem to be that special entitled beneficiary and perhaps it is no coincidence, I am writing this during Lent. How many of us would go, “Why should God treat me, who forgoes pleasures of the flesh on equal footing as those hedonistic people! No! God must love me more! I earned it!” That’s spiritual infantilism speaking.

Since you live in an illusionary world where there is only a limited amount of love to go around and God’s forgiveness has a time schedule and God’s patience has a breaking point (funny how God starts to resemble your infantile self eh?) it makes it all that harder for you to accept God shares this unconditional love with others and so your false pride leads to the next infantile spiritual road-block….

Selfishness/Envy


“It is not enough that I have, someone else must be deprived in order for me to feel special about having.”

This is a feeling we understand all too well isn’t it. It is so childish! Remember when you used to torment your siblings, cousins and friends by eating your treat slowly so you can show off you still had after they finished theirs? Remember showing off your toys and when it inspired enough envy and lack in our siblings, cousins and friends making them beg us to play too, we delightfully denied them? This was our infantile way of boosting our self-esteem and some of us have never outgrown it. We continue to need to invent illusionary ranking mechanisms to inspire envy in others so we can feel good about ourselves.

There mere thought of universal wealth fills many people with dread! If everyone has more than enough, how do they show off and evoke envy in others? What good is being rewarded unless someone else is punished? We even apply this limited thinking to our Deities. Look at the reaction of a religious extremist when you suggest that since God can do anything God wants and according to their own scriptures, God often surprised many with a “change of heart”, so it is not outside the realm of possibility God can once again surprise them and welcome into His loving arms in the afterlife those the extremist condemns. The reaction of the extremist is almost like a petulant child forced to share a toy.



This is what lies at the scummy centre of a selfish heart stunted by conditional thinking about God, the Universe, Love, Life, Everything. If false pride was the original shortcoming, then envy and selfishness was the resulting original sickness. Yes, envy is a sickness. It is even represented by a sickly green colour. If you have ever felt jealousy you know it is painful. Your skin prickles, the stomach acidifies throwing off the pH balance in the body, your heart beats irregularly, appetite, breathing and your sleep patterns are thrown off balance. Prolonged envy withers the body from the inside out, like a prune. The reason it is so toxic is because it is rooted in falsehood.

You see, truth is there is more than enough for everyone. So for example, there is no real, spiritual need for a wife to feel jealous because her husband is captivated by a passing gorgeous woman, not if she is truly grateful for her body, her life and the fact she even has a husband and his male libido is healthy and active. She laughs it off,
“Honey you naughty, naughty boy! You are going to get such a spanking when we go home!”
“Promise?” he responds playfully.


If on the other hand she is experiencing lack and low –self esteem, his unintentional biological predisposition to be visually stimulated will drive her absolutely paranoid with jealousy and here is the really nasty thing about jealousy, like its cousin guilt, it always seeks to punish. When jealous people turn the punishment on themselves we feel sorry for them and their low self-esteem and lack. But we must also learn how to feel sorry for the jealous person who turns the punishment outside on others as a mutated form of hatred. Believe it or not, they are suffering too. Do not mistake their aggression and acting out as strength.



Anyone who finds it necessary to deny someone else freedom, equality, justice and oppress another is acting from a place of severe spiritual weakness. Their stomachs are boiling with green, sickly jealousy. Every time the racist sees happy inclusion or interracial romance, acid rushes up his esophagus. Every time the fanatical religious leader sees those he condemns gain acceptance and happiness and humane treatment his heart is stabbed with green rage.

Those who accept the Law of Attraction and Consequence is in effect in our Universe know that there is actually no need for any human to punish another human being for anything at all. There are already mechanisms in place to do so. We were given the privilege of being like self-destined stem cells in God’s Universe. We have free-will to become whatever we’d like to be. We are free to become the lofty brain cells or the stinky asshole cells. We can even choose to become malignant if we want and seek to destroy ourselves and everything else. Whatever we choose, nothing in the Universe is wasted and it has its own built-in, superior immune system that will recycle our energy in the “universal subduction zone” if need be. When we exact an eye for an eye, it actually an illusion of justice we receive. We cannot actually, “harm or kill a soul,” the best we can do is end their current stint in this body. Like The Terminator, “They will be back,” and they will still have to repay their karmic debt and so will we.


The interracial couple holding hands walking down the street aren’t deliberately seeking to hurt the racist. The racist feels “false hurt” anyway because it is motivated by false pride; feeling specially entitled to exclusive access to every white woman or every black man.

Seeking revenge for being truly wronged, while understandable, is taking out more than what is fair and increases our karmic debt. But if you really want to go into karmic bankruptcy the only thing worse is vengeance for a bogus sense of being “wronged” because of your infantile false pride, whether it is religious, racial or whatever illusionary ranking system you have bought into to boost your self-esteem and “deservedness” of Divine blessings. It is the most parasitic kind of punishment ever! Oppressing or denying someone so you can feel better is the ultimate form of gluttony. Then again, what do you expect? Gluttony/greed is yet another child of discontented ingratitude.


The upward learning curve of a Spiritual Adult when faced with pain.


The never-ending spiral of False Pride

Greed/Gluttony


Our life on Planet Earth School is like an All You Can Eat Buffet that does not allow you to take home doggie bags. We must leave all our material wealth behind and return just as we were born, naked and unfettered.

Imagine you are invited to an All You Can Eat buffet. You go there with a healthy appetite and take your time to thoroughly take in the visual delight of the food on display and the decor. You praise those responsible for it. You allow others hungrier or less healthier than you, like the old granny to go ahead to the front of the buffet line. No worries, it is an All You Can Eat buffet after all that promises the food will be there for everyone. You take your time and choose carefully what you would like to eat, based on what is best for your health along with a little of what you enjoy just for an extra treat. You try a new taste sensation or two. You praise the chefs! When you are satisfied, you stop eating. When you have had your full of the experience, you thank the host and you leave peacefully and joyfully. You are a Spiritual Adult.

Unfortunately, there are also Spiritual Infants at the All You Can Eat buffet. They show up and loudly declare that everyone had better get out of their way because they are super hungry or have really big stomachs and therefore are entitled to eat more than everyone else! They do not even stop to enjoy the colours and smells of the food. They dig in with zero etiquette, destroying the nicely garnished displays and pile their plates high. They eat as if the food will run out at any minute.



They shovel food into their mouths without tasting it; then go back in line for more. These Buffet Bullies start knocking old ladies, children out of the way to get to the head of the line. They spit on entire portions of food to mark it as theirs. They even begin to enforce silly rules as to who gets to eat what and when like…
“All black people must stand to the back of the line and only get the leftovers!” or “Women should not get to eat as much as the men do. The men will choose what we prefer the women to eat!”

They don’t give a fuck who the chef is! Whoever he is, he had better keep the food coming and nobody had better challenge their takeover of the All You Can Eat Buffet. They eat until they make themselves sick. They throw up and eat some more. They even try to hoard food. Unfortunately, they realize only too late that eventually all guests, even they, will have to leave the All You Can Eat Buffet and return home and guess what? The All You Can Eat Buffet does not allow you to take home doggie bags. All the food you piled on your plate and hoarded on your table you have to leave it RIGHT THERE and depart.

Of course, you can return to the All You Can Eat Buffet tomorrow but unlike the Spiritual Adult, the Infant does not realize this. He thinks this life is all there is and of course remember he also thinks: THERE IS NOT ENOUGH FOR EVERYONE SO I MUST TAKE ALL I CAN!

So here you are at the All You Can Eat Buffet, really trying to be a Spiritual Adult but are surrounded by these greedy Infants who are making life miserable for you and all the other diners. This is where we come to the hard part! How can you see others gobbling up all the food and depriving others and still hold on to your trust, that there is enough? How do you feel confident that there is no need to get anxious and join in the desperate scramble to grab everything at the expense of someone else, incurring karmic debt! How do you stop comparing the amount of food you have on your plate with what other people have on theirs? How do you trust that two loaves and seven fishes will feed everyone! Where does that trust come from?

It comes from gratitude. Let me explain.


Amazingly enough, slowing down and truly appreciating what the Divine Chef has provided is not only a sign of a Spiritual Adult, but practicing this with actual food also prevents obesity in the physical sense as well.

Imagine that because of the unfair actions of the gluttonous Spiritual Infants at the Buffet Table, all you got to eat on your first trip to the buffet line is a single sprig of broccoli. However, you still savour it. Then you personally seek out the chef whom the gluttons have ignored and you say,

“Thank you so much chef! It was just a morsel of broccoli but I can tell it was wonderful and my body will benefit from the vitamins and fibre it has!”
It is then the chef says,
“You think that was so wonderful? Ha! Let me show you what wonderful really is!”

You see, as it turns out, this “chef” is a Divine Master chef and really passionate about their work and likes nothing more than to give you as much food satisfaction and nourishment as you can stand. Now that you have proven that you are ready, the chef will work out a personalized, truly appetizing daily menu that will nourish and astound you. In fact, you soon discover that the gluttons and their defeated starving victims at the All You Can Eat Buffet are actually fighting over scraps left over from the chef’s many personally catered meals made special daily for Spiritually Adult people like you. After all, nothing in the Universe goes to waste.

But wait! I can already hear you saying,
“Hold up! So are you saying being privately catered to by the Divine is conditional on gratitude? I thought you said that the Divine gives to EVERYONE unconditionally! How come the private catering is not available to everyone unconditionally?”

My answer is…IT IS! The chef’s private catering service is available free of charge for everyone! PLUS In addition all the food at the All You Can Eat Buffet was prepared by the same chef who lovingly and unconditionally makes food available to all: the good, bad and ugly. But if you are too distracted by the negative, infantile behavior at the All You Can Eat Buffet, you will never know or even wonder to ask if such a thing as private catering exists.


Obligated, calculated “Praise de Lawds!” cannot be used as currency in exchange for Divine favour. So many spiritual teachers made this very clear.
That primitive bartering mentality is not how gratitude works. How it works is that when you are grateful, you just tend to stop, appreciate and notice life with new lenses. Gratitude amplifies and aims your vision more accurately on the Divine. That is how you see the abundant, free, Divine privileges all around you. They were always there the whole time, just waiting to be embraced with joy.


It was when you were savouring and meditating with deep appreciation on the flavor of that sprig of broccoli that you truly looked around the All You Can Eat Buffet. That was how you first noticed that all this time, there was a sign on one of the doors that read:
“CHEF’S KITCHEN COME ON IN FOR A CHAT!”

The chef was so thrilled you actually noticed that subtle hint of garlic and touch of chili oil in the single sprig of broccoli even if you were the only one who did that day. Your sophisticated taste buds and epicurious tendencies inspire them and indicate you are ready for the special privilege of premium one on one catering. Without sounding condescending, some people just aren’t at your level yet. Not today anyway.

How come? Well, believe it or not, some people, even those who are starving and victimized by the gluttons actually still prefer jostling up amidst the mad food grabbing, hoarding, fighting, hunger, greed, at the All You Can Eat Buffet Table. They still hold out hope they can pack up their plate using spiritually infantile techniques. It is what they are accustomed to and they are too scared to change that paradigm. So what good is serving them personalised five star cuisine when they will just shovel the food into their mouths without truly appreciating the artful plating, the freshness of the produce and the delicate balance of textures and flavors?

Then there are some who are simply too discontent and mistrustful to give up control to a personalised chef to make food and wine choices for them every day. Keep in mind, once you go on the chef’s one on one catering plan, you will have to trust their culinary expertise and long term nutritional plan. The chef will not be hurried or dictated to. What Cordon Bleu chef wants to cook personally for someone who will try to tell them how to cook and never accept any of their culinary recommendations and constantly turn up their nose at what is served?


Believe it or not, both the glutton and the defeated starving are on the same continuum of discontentment and equally lack the ability to truly enjoy Divine cuisine.

Sometimes, the chef will make you wait hours before serving you and there is usually a very good reason. Sometimes they will surprise you or serve up a vegetable you always found yucky but if you are brave enough to try it again, you will be amazed at how your taste-buds have matured and how much better it is to face this difficult taste test with a Divine chef’s expert touch. Food that you hated or feared as a child now becomes your new delicacies. You will never starve but neither will you be over-fed by this chef. However you will be allowed to share morsels of your special food to those who want to taste it and you are free to spread the news about this truly Divine personal catering service. But in the end, you cannot feed them all your food, it was made specially for YOU.


Not everyone is ready to place full trust in the Divine Chef to select what is best for them. They actually prefer to jostle up at the All You Can Eat Buffet.

Every person, no matter how starving and desperate they are, must find that door to the chef’s kitchen themselves and get their own personalized menu. Gratitude is not something you can "make" someone feel. It must come unprompted and unconditionally from free will or else it does not result in a Spiritual Adult who has a true appreciation for what is prepared by that chef. Conversion and coercion into a spiritual path based on promises of reward or fear of eternal punishment cannot be the activity of a Spiritual Adult. All you can do is unconditionally share morsels of truth, inspire as much joy and comfort as you can, then leave it up to the individual to find the true source as you once did.

Beware, there are many Gluttons at the All You Can Eat buffet posing as "representatives" of the Divine Chef and selling food they have hoarded from the buffet as "special spiritual succor". They have a very recognisable profile and again, many spiritual teachers have given us clues for our protection. One you may be familiar with is in the gospel of Matt Chapter 23. Some of my favourite tell-tale signs:

...but do not ye after their works: for they say, and do not. Verse 3

For they bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men's shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers. Verse 4

...hypocrites! for ye pay tithe of mint and anise and cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, judgment, mercy, and faith: these ought ye to have done, and not to leave the other undone. Verse 23

Ye blind guides, which strain at a gnat, and swallow a camel Verse 24


Also as we previously discussed, they use fear and guilt to win customers. However the real "Chef's Kitchen Door" can only be accessed through joyful gratitude and the Chef deals one on one with grateful customers...NO bureaucracy at all!

As a creative person, even as I write this analogy, it just rings so close to home for me. Perhaps my Muse wanted to remind me of the two inner paths I can take as an artist. I can create motivated purely by the overwhelming need to express the joy and inspiration I feel unconditionally OR I join the mad scramble at the All You Can Eat Buffet Line and create motivated by a need to “make it big” because I feel so inadequate otherwise.

Many artists do not wait for the Universe to give them, they take…often from someone else far more talented to bring their art to the world. Others use deception to foist their mediocre work on the public. We have producers who turn terrible singers into musical sensations in the studio, all for money and fame. That is how whether you like it or not, you get some annoying pop tune ringing in your ears, cluttering your mind-space. Sometimes the person being taken from is the artist. True talent can be exploited so that it becomes another commodity for gluttons at the All You Can Eat Buffet, leading to celebrity tragedies we know all too well.

However, if music is your Divine voice then you will sing, you will play, you will perform whether there is a crowd of supporters or not, whether there are record deals or not, whether there are Grammy awards and private jets or not. Why? The sheer joy and gratitude you feel to open your mouth and sing is just too wonderful. You do it from love and love alone and leave it up to the Universe to decide if your fan base should be ten people or ten million. Regardless of the figure, you feel like you are giving something valuable to this world.


In the movie Ratatouille, Remy's superior appreciation for food, allows him to savour while the other rats just gobble. This is what prompts him to want to add something to the world through his talent instead of just taking and taking like the other rats.

A friend of mine just so happens to make the most exquisite black fruit cakes I have ever tasted. I cannot eat it around company because I do an obscene amount of moaning and groaning with delight while I savour a slice. It’s embarrassing! She has been pressured so many times to make these cakes to sell.
“You’ll make a fortune!”

However she is content to bake just a few cakes every year for those she loves. There is no race to “get somewhere” or “do something serious” with your gifts. There is only simple joy in using them and perfecting them and however big your, natural circle of influence, you share your healing, love and joy with them. While you do, you feel just like a celebrity chef or perhaps even better. That’s the power of gratitude! It leads to true, meaningful happiness and fulfillment independent of the illusionary infantile ranking systems we have invented.


True success, satisfaction and deep self-esteem that come naturally and in perfect balance with the Universe and in harmony with the Divine will is what gratitude brings into your life.

Gratitude for the privilege of being a teacher and a true passion for it, makes a high school teacher who earns a piddling salary feel like a million bucks over a lawyer who chose the profession just to get rich quickly and grows more disillusioned with life.

Now that you see what a little gratitude can do, are you ready to access this power-up? That’s next.

February 23, 2010

Time To Grow Up!

This “Grow Up” series begins with the most important (in my book) facet of our lives that needs to advance…our spirituality. All the other facets (emotional and socio-political) that I will explore later on in the year, hinge greatly on our spiritual maturity.


Grow up yes, but keep your child-like curiosity, silliness, humility and a sense of wonder and genuine, honest expression.

The use of, “Grow up!” in this series must also be explained. Many of us have a twisted understanding of what it means to be “grown-up”. Much of it is tied to acting like a superior rather than demanding a superior standard of ourselves. We who descend from a legacy of slavery and colonialism, struggle especially with this. So, to be clear to be “grown-up” in this exploration, has nothing to do with abandoning child-like curiosity, silliness, humility and a sense of wonder and genuine, honest expression. It also has nothing to do with status whether economic, educational or social. It has nothing to do with age either. In fact some children are more spiritually grown up than their parents.

You and I know of regular Sunday church attending grannies who constantly pray for the ability to forgive yet continue to harbor grudges till their deathbed. The meaning of Christ on a cross has become such a fetish they expect forgiveness to be miraculously bestowed upon them just fingering the rosary. Seventy plus years and they still don’t get it. Meanwhile, in a much shorter time span, it is quite possible for their grandchild to fully grasp what the actual power-up of forgiveness is and begin to implement it.


How many grudge-bearing yet church going grannies do you know?


While their kids express far more spiritual advancement in their ability to forgive from true understanding of what forgiveness is? It is proof that being a spiritual grown-up has little to do with age.

Growing up simply means to evolve away from the primitive animal mind and advance closer in consciousness of the Divine mind. In doing so, one becomes empowered and enlightened enough to effect massive karmic resolution and soul advancement regardless of their environment, upbringing or circumstances.

On Planet Earth School, it takes guts to be an independent grown-up. It is much easier to be a child completely at the mercy of your environment, peers and those you have designated as your “parents” be they priests, pundits, pop culture idols or political leaders. It’s funny, almost every religious text from the bible to Koran says, “narrow is the path and few are on it”. Yet so many people place great stock in the popularity of their chosen path and making it as congested as possible with childlike followers. If you are one of those taking comfort in the popularity of being one of billions in a religion and converting more members globally and trying to get the entire world to conform to your path, you like the aforementioned forgiveness-challenged granny, still do not “get it”.

Any person doing intricate, individual soul-evaluation every day could never easily conform to be one of billions of followers. The more spiritually enlightened you become, the more your unique Divine spark shines through and the more immune you become to peer pressure and compromises needed to fit in. Even if you came from a class of billions, you just naturally become the weird, indefinable outcast rather than one of the popular ordinary kids on Planet Earth School. You also have neither the time nor the energy to preoccupy yourself so much with the lives of others like a distracted Class President or Hall Monitor who neglects their own school work.

Yes, you are eager to save the world. But if you want to truly do so, you must allow all wider familial, community, political concerns to fall nicely into place around your focused attention on your spiritual development.


For a spiritually mature person, their goal and only goal, is to graduate from this Earth School with full marks. Not for reward. Not to avoid punishment. Not to impress anyone, including God. They do it because they deeply desire and are ready for more power in their next leg of their eternal journey to God. They understand fully that with great power comes great responsibility and being alive in the Divine One is being in the service of the Divine One, a rare and wonderful privilege. So out of share gratitude for this, they seek the power to do even more of Its will within Its Universe.

All wider familial, community, political concerns fall nicely into place around you when you keep that focus. You will never find yourself infringing on someone else just to validate your own path. Yet, the way you inspire others will be almost effortless and always unconditional. What is more, if you goal is self-mastery first before trying to master anyone or anything else, you will by this very fact, make our Earth School a better place to live and learn on during your stint here. This is the path of a Spiritual Grown Up.

By the way, all spiritual visionaries throughout the ages have always urged for their listeners to cease being childish, petty and foolish and to well…GROW UP! They leave many powerful tools to aid us to mature in our understanding and directly combat the primitive infantilism within us. These are namely:

Love/Compassion/Forgiveness / Vs. Hate/Suffering/Vengeance

The Spiritual Adult has deeply rooted total trust their soul is unharmed, immortal and the Universe/God is just and love is unconditional. They can afford to be generous with their love and able to forgive E.g. Christ forgiving those who crucified him, the Buddhist path of non-violence even sacrificing oneself in protest instead of others.




The Spiritual Infant still believes they need to earn Divine love and eye for an eye is the only way to seek justice because they do not trust the immortality of their existence and fear death and so loathe any kind of impediment to trouble-free existence in what is to them a frightfully short lifetime. They also do not trust that the Universe is already designed to deliver equal and just output for what we input and must act as vengeance enforcers for the Divine which is truly a redundant, karmically backward post to fill.

Divine Knowledge/Power & Purpose/Inner Peace Vs. Fear/Karmic & Environmental Constraint/Suffering

The Spiritual Adult knows this existence is one leg of an eternal journey and they are part of a Higher Divine Purpose. This gives them power to purposefully fulfill their goals without fear or the need to incur negative karma. Freedom from fear leads to more inner peace, even when a whirlwind of confusion and pain swirls around them the spiritual lessons and path ahead is never lost on them. E.g. Hinduism’s focus on self-mastery and self-awareness to awaken power from knowledge.



The Spiritual Infant lives in constant fear. Fear is what motivates them to do what is right or wrong. Fear drives their relationships, even their relationship with their Divine Parent. Fear drives how they try to fit into society. They feel absolutely powerless and victimized constantly by outside forces(either God is testing or punishing them or a devil or its minion is tempting them) and are unable to take responsibility for their life. Pain from challenges, loss or change in no way sparks their growth but makes them wallow in suffering. Loss of faith often results when they can no longer justify the suffering in light of their faithful and fearful devotion to what becomes to them, a seemingly uncaring Deity.

Joy/Contentment/Gratitude Vs. Lack/Envy/Greed

For the Spiritual Adult, happiness comes naturally from self-awareness that we are Divine and the universe is abundant and everlasting and this is reason alone to rejoice and feel content. Wanting and grabbing is not necessary. All that is required and attracted will be given freely and unconditionally in perfect balance. E.g. Rastafarianism’s “Jah will provide”, Christ’s rejection of materialism at the expense of another’s humanity or distraction from one’s focus on their eternal soul.



The Spiritual Infant has an unquenchable hunger, over active ego and a blind spot that prevents them from seeing all the ways they are Divine, provided adequately for and unconditionally loved. Much more on this later on!

It is easy to wax philosophical on these virtues. It is much harder to shine that glaring spotlight, regardless of our religious/spiritual path on the unpleasant realities that show we have allowed spiritual infantilism to hinder us. Most of us, myself included are far from grown-up but a lot of us are hitting puberty after an arduous childhood of false fears and petty resentments.



After many millenia in this mindset it is hard to evolve to...



this mindset.

Some forms of infantile behaviour stems from echoes of our primitive past, natural inclinations that aided our survival 100,000 + years ago but are now hindrances to our advancement and must be sloughed off. For evolution is not just about our physical brains and bodies but our spiritual ones as well. Unfortunately, many forms of infantile behaviour, we refined in ever more destructive ways, justifying them sometimes even in the name of God, family and country. For example fear has been refined into so many spiritually destructive by-products, the leading one being guilt.


Yes, guilt is a form of fear. It has nothing to do with true acknowledgement of a misstep and feeling genuine, active responsibility that results in self-forgiveness, growth and change. Guilt is just fearful self-pity that has the same paralyzing effect as trepidation does. It even feels the same- the stomach sinking feeling, rapid heartbeat and a fight or flight response in the form of either defensiveness or a defeatist self-punishment mode. As destructive a trait as it is, many who call themselves spiritual leaders use fear based guilt to control and corral followers. They are counting on the defeatist self-punishment mode to create enough need and desperation that paves the way for a highly emotional conversion.


Have you allowed yourself or another to load up the spiritually paralyzing burden on guilt on your shoulders? Remember guilt is not true remorse and a sense of responsibility. It is nothing more than fearful self-pity that leaves you vulnerable to predation by religious predators.

Many of us just hitting spiritual puberty are also realizing guilt and fear based faiths are for Spiritual Infants who don’t want to go through the troublesome process of analyzing why they made mistakes and taking responsibility for learning and growing from them. It is much easier to just chalk it up to a “sin nature” and the “devil”; the infantile spiritual equivalent of the boogie man. Then you just take a magic potion of Jesus blood and we can forget everything! Now just pay me 10% of your salary every month please! Spiritual Adults can sniff these wolves in sheep’s clothing out a mile away who load you up with guilt and then offer to relieve the load conditional of course on your demonstration of the proper amount of devotion! Don’t worry, they will let you know through subtle at first then not so subtle means what is the “proper” amount.

In previous essays, I have explored Love/Compassion/Forgiveness as well as Divine Knowledge/Power & Purpose and Inner Peace. Perhaps it’s my recent move back to St. Lucia. Perhaps it’s my experience recently with trusting the Universe and my Creator and seeing that trust answered tangibly resulting in me feeling intense joy and gratitude. So the spiritual virtue I will like to focus on is Joy/Contentment/Gratitude and the infantile thinking that hinders us from truly experiencing this essential spiritual power-up.



Stay tuned!

February 07, 2010

Bottoms Up!


Bottoms Up

Praise the ass! Hail the asshole!

As Carnival 2010 grinds along with all the female bum bum celebration, I want to stop for a moment for a different acknowledgement of the ass.

These mesmerizing twin mounds of endless delight that envelope an oh so essential porte de poo poo et plaisir. They are at the very base of the spine where our muladhara chakra root connects to Mother Earth and to her physical powers and delights. Our relationship with our ass is directly related to our spiritual relationship to Mother and the earth and this is true both personally and culturally.

The more we detached we have become from Mother the more lower back and ass-related suffering we experience. The less grateful and generous (tight assed) we get; the more stressed out and suspicious we allow ourselves to become and the more we allow shame to govern our lives, the more we traumatize our ass, to the detriment of our health. When you choose to ignore your asshole as something dirty and shameful, you also tend to be out of sync with the functions of your body related to healthy intake of nourishment and expulsion of waste. The way you eat, digest food and expel it, is directly related to how Kundalini Shakti (Mother Earth) energy flows in and out of your system.



Freedom From Anal Retentiveness

For me, my intake of earth’s nourishment was not so much a problem as what happened to it within my body. Feelings of unreservedness and lack of trust prevented me from fully processing that life-giving energy. It also hindered my ability to let go of what I no longer need in my life. Long spells of constipation would be followed by explosive diarrhea when my body became too toxic. This physical reaction mirrored perfectly my emotional state, for I clung desperately to failed relationships, outmoded ways of thinking and tried to avoid all unpleasant confrontations because of failing to trust I would be loved and supported even if I showed my “shitty” side. Then explosive emotional diarrhea would finally force me to react to people and situations in a far less healthy and overly extreme way that would involve far too much drama. My challenge in 2010 is to trust myself and the universe enough to let go and have a gentler natural emotional elimination process to rid my life of waste.

Are you anal retentive about any aspect of your life? Anal retentiveness is not just about cleanliness. Some people are anal retentive about money; how much they spend, what they spend it on and how others relate to them because of it. Some are anal retentive about always being right or perceived as righteous. Are you afraid to speak up and disagree with people because you are so desperate to be liked? That is also anal retentive. Whatever illusion you cling to and whatever form of constipation rules your life you will eventually be forced to let go and let God, or more accurately in this case, Goddess. I guarantee you that much. Is that too bold?

The reason I can guarantee this is because anal retention is based in falsehood and contradicts the natural flow of the universe. Do you really think that somehow you can stand in the way of change? No matter the justification; fear, traditional beliefs or the legacy of class and money, the anal retentive will always lose to the sheer power of the ebb and flow of change. Change is a constant, irrefutable truth of the Universe and truth wins every time! Mother wins every time! Those who fail to recognise this will find themselves in free fall until they at last re-ground in something true.



Those on the losing side fighting against change THEN...





And NOW


Sometimes this free fall happens in the form of financial loss. In fact, the entire financial crisis is a global purging of outmoded economic philosophies that do not support the health of the planet and its people. Countries will continue to free-fall until they re-ground their systems in something sustainable and supportive of holistic, equal growth.
Sometimes we are forced to acknowledge our root chakra through failed relationships that were based on co-dependence and ownership instead of real, unconditional love that sets a soul free to pursue its destiny. Sometimes our wake-up call is when everything we have complacently accepted as true starts crumbling around us; your religious community or corporate empire fails you or a member of your family, a celebrated hero betrays you or your own hypocrisies are embarrassingly revealed to you. Perhaps the most frequent manifestation of anal retention reprisal is sickness, particularly any kind of illness related to the digestive and elimination system, from heartburn to hemorrhoids.

Mother is constantly trying to free us from what is no longer relevant and what is not real. Conservatism and traditionalism which sacrifices the youth, will of people and new ideas to preserve the outmoded needs of an elite few cannot withstand nature which constantly recycles what is old. What is no longer useful must be expelled and those who cling to old beliefs based on fear more than truth will meet a most unpleasant catharsis. Any institution that positions itself against change will also soon be destroyed for change is as unstoppable as the ocean eroding a shoreline.

Anal Demonization

The anus deals with waste and we humans have developed a very unhealthy view of anything involving death and decay. We treat these darker aspects of life as less savory and worse, less spiritual, vital and important than the sweet smelling, lighter aspects of our existence. But the Divine is life and death, light and dark, pleasure and pain, sweet and bitter. The root that is our anus is truly reflective of that.



Cultures which acknowledge the destroyer aspect of the Divine as part of natural universal balance and not part of a vengeful or punishing agenda tend to have a more holistic view of the asshole. Even cultures which simply recognize a Feminine element of the Divine also tend to accept the anus as more than just a dirty, unmentionable poop shoot. Their approach to sexuality incorporates this part of the body as one of the many ways to enjoy pleasure and their sexual culture, literature and art is often reflective of this, referring to the anus as the rose bud. The Karma Sutra refers to the recipient of anal sex to be in a state of kinetic bliss. On the other hand, rates of colon cancer and hemorrhoids are highest in Judeo-Christian societies that literally have "a stick up their ass" and are further away from the Feminine Divine and more likely to demonize any kind of anal appreciation.

When most people think of anal sex, they think of prison rape leaving a torn apart, bloody, shit stained asshole. It is a reflection of how much we associate this form of sex with violation, in part because it has often been used in this way, particularly by men on other men. It has nothing to do with sexual orientation either. Straight men rape other straight men all the time, throughout history and today in prisons around the world. In times gone by, tribes or armies conquering other tribes and armies raped the men and young boys as a form of humiliation. Rape is a violent act that has nothing to do with sexual attraction or romantic feelings. A rapist gets off on dominating and humiliating another person, it is the power that makes his dick hard. For men this is particularly so because of how they are wired. Many men find themselves getting erect during a violent argument or even a physical fight. Many couples find that immediately after a vitriolic argument, the man is ready to have sex (sometimes even women get aroused during violent arguments) while the female partner cannot bring herself to be intimate and needs more time to open up again.

Someone with a healthy sexuality, whether gay or straight is naturally turned off if their sexual partner is not in the mood, strongly objects, is crying, screaming, in pain, distress or fearful in any way. A rapist on the other hand, relishes those things. They actually get harder because of it. It is so unfortunate that the moral of the story of Lot in Genesis, whether myth or not, is not presented in a more enlightened way that shows intellect about human sexuality. Instead religious leaders conveniently used the story of Sodom and Gomorrah to play into homophobic rhetoric.

Anyone with basic common sense who reads the account in Genesis 19, can see it describes an attempted gang bang by rapist men and that it has little to do with the men even having a homosexual orientation. In fact, it is more likely the men were straight. The cities of Sodom and Gomorrah were described as populous, meaning there were mostly heterosexuals having children there. Besides, Lot tried to distract the violent men by offering his virgin daughters for them to rape instead. Why would he even bother if they were not usually interested in women? The glaringly obvious motivation behind the men wanting to rape is never discussed honestly by religious leaders.

The men of Sodom were intent on teaching the upstart two strangers (apparently angels in disguise) a lesson. You cannot just enter our city without permission and Lot is an alien resident here and has no authority to bring strangers into our city. It was a xenophobic-motivated attack meant to humiliate not one motivated by lust, gay or otherwise. Which is why later on, the gospels relate Jesus referring to Sodom not as homosexual but unfriendly and inhospitable to strangers.



The huge difference between mutually pleasurable, anal intercourse between loving partners and the attempted gang rape descriped in Genesis 19 by men whose motivation was clearly xenophobic and not sexual attraction is glaringly obvious to any intelligent person.

With so much misinformation it is no surprise that anal intercourse whether practiced by men or women, homosexual or heterosexual (and believe it or not, far more heterosexuals practice it than homosexuals), is so contentious. Pagan cultures tolerated or even celebrated anal sex while Abrahamic cultures reviled it. It was reviled as “unclean” for the same reasons uncircumcision was reviled as unclean. It was not conducive to procreation and making the generations as populous as grains of sand. Worse of all, it was associated with base, primal, lower chakra feelings that contradicted the Patriarch God.

For one thing is certainly true about anal sex, it involves (1) Complete letting go and surrender to the primal Mother-based sexual energies (2) the ability to fully appreciate and trust that bliss comes from pleasure and pain interwoven. This kind of acceptance flies in the face of rigidly controlling your passions, emotions and the either/or world view. You cannot get more lower-chakra than that. For the patriarchal socialized male, such a thing was unthinkable, for women, less so. Women know all about surrender, pain and discomfort and riding it through into pleasure beginning with their very first sexual encounter. However, we are also perceived as the lesser gender because we are the receiver when in fact, it takes more strength to do what we do. For a man to be on the receiving end of anal intercourse, he attaches that stigma to himself as well.
The ability to allow someone to enter you at a most intimate, sensitive point, stimulate you and accept it willingly requires acknowledging one’s own feminine aspect. It requires letting go of all control, absolute trust and total relaxation; something many men have been programmed not to do and many are entirely unable to do without drugs.



Greek art depicting anal sex

Whether it is a woman inserting her finger up there or a man inserting his penis, many men feel violated, especially by the latter because it involves allowing someone else to experience pleasure and release inside of your body. Even women feel this way about anal sex despite being accustomed to vaginal penetration. There is just something about anal penetration that is so intimate and visceral it makes one feel like a completely helpless child.

I myself am not entirely a full-fledged aficionado of anal penetration, having my fair share of lower chakra trust issues but my investigation has revealed that it can be, with the right person and right technique the doorway to something mind-blowing. I have researched quite a bit on the subject, experimented as far as my tastes would allow and conversed not only with gay men but straight men who have enjoyed a little or a lot of anal stimulation. My findings are surprising.

First, you should know that there are many kinds of anal stimulation ranging from "vanilla" to "chocolate". On the vanilla end of things, there is external only which involves rimming the rose bud with fingers or tongue; gentle pressure or massage against the opening, taint and perineum. There is shallow anal intercourse where only the outer ring is breeched and insertion is only a few inches. Some men like their head moving in and out of the hole while the grasping, trembling butt cheeks stimulate the shaft. Then there is deep rectal exploration territory, which I find a little extreme and just like deep vaginal penetration, highly unnecessary. The best part of both the vagina and the anus is only about one third of the way in, the rest is a dead area. And just as too deep, violent and frequent vaginal sex can cause cervical bruising and other problems, that goes double for the anus. But to each his own, some people like chocolate.

For those of us who appreciate a subtler more moderate approach, simply adding a little bit of external pressure or vibration to the lower spine, perineum or anal entrance creates an awareness of the base chakra and adds a deeper dimension of sensation during intercourse.

When done correctly the first encounter with actual penetration need not be an overly painful experience. The “blooming” of the rose is a technique experienced lovers are able to do, where the muscle relaxes and willingly accepts penetration. It is also good to know that you do not walk around with feces in your anal canal. This passage is generally clear unless during or immediately after a bowel movement. Gentle cleansing, correct condom and lubrication, is all it takes to make this a two way passage.



Described as the "Mother of all orgasms" by both men and women. A little bit of anal stimulation can awaken the root chakra and lead to bliss that leaves one boneless.

Some men cum simply from feeling that stimulation on their prostate and claim it is the most intense, long lasting orgasm they have ever felt. More and more straight men are requesting a finger or slender vibrating butt plug while being given a blow job by their women. For many it is the closest they will ever come to a “female” orgasm that lasts longer than five seconds. I will never forget the song, “Golden Touch” by a UK roc band Razorlight. At the V Music Festival the lead singer admitted it was about the joys of anal sex given by a woman who knew her stuff. What was truly revealing to me was that though I expected an affinity for anal sex among gay men and some enlightened, uninhibited straight men because of their G-Spot area by the prostate, I was surprised to find that women who enjoy anal sex also relate the depth of the orgasm being something entirely different.

Many women are unaware the clitoris head is just the tip of a pleasure rigged organ with a shaft that extends inward and wraps around the urethral sponge. Gentle pressure at the back entrance or perineum pushes the clitoris outward and presses the urethral sponge from behind. For many women anal stimulation gave them the first ever ejaculatory G spot orgasm they ever had. Doggie style is popular for this reason among women “in the know”, that pressure against the buttocks is simply delightful. A Mother-orgasm is the feeling of root awakening and connectivity that envelopes the entire body. Both men and women testify that you don’t recover from that orgasm for a few hours. It leaves you completely boneless with aftershocks that go on and on.




Just a little nub? Think again! The clitoris is actually a fully formed, large pleasure organ that extends deep inside on either side of the urethral sponge. Anal stimulation activates it from the back and sides leading to a more complete orgasm.

That level of pleasure must be illicit right? I mean, there is just no way, we “sinful”, “underserving” humans should be allowed such bliss. Well, it seems this is exactly what many cultures believed. This kind of sex is just too powerful a sensation and obviously charged with potent Mother energy, it had to be stamped out or at best appropriated by a select few in power. In the process of stamping out pleasure and the Mother we lost our entire mid-section, pelvis, hips, groin, butt to shame, mystery and misinformation.

Arise Ass! Arise!

Now I hate stereotypes just as much as you do, not for the reasons you might expect either. Stereotypes can be rooted in a general truth. Yes, it is true that a disproportionate number of young black men are in prison but this stereotype does not explain why this is so nor does it account for the large numbers who do not fit it and do not have to fit it if they so choose. I am about to use a stereotype very soon to explore the relationship we have had with our derriere, I want to do so with the disclaimer that one should never use a stereotype without also giving the background story.

So here is the stereotype- White people cannot dance.



Now here is the background and explanation. The lack of innate ability to dance among those from an indigenous European background refers specifically to a “particular” form of dance. It involves dance that comes from the power of the drum, the instrument most synonymous with Mother Earth. This lack of coordination when it comes to the drum is not racially based but culturally based. In other words, a person with pale skin, blonde hair and blue eyes has just as much ability to wine like Denise Belfon. However chances are because of a certain kind of socialization, they have forgotten how. Even a black person can lose that innate ability as well after generations and generations of indoctrination in a strict, patriarchal-based, prudish religious environment that celebrates Father music only.


Those of us here in the Caribbean who witness tourists comically out of time as they try to physically interpret our drum-based Mother music know what I mean. You almost wonder how they make love if they cannot naturally rotate their hips with fluid, sensual rhythmic timing. It is because they are rhythm deaf, much the same way some people are tone deaf.
We of African and Indian descent of course do not have this cultural problem. We still have a strong connection to Mother and her earth rhythms are still very fresh in our psyches even after colonialism and slavery. Even though the British Empire tried to ban African drums in Trinidad because they were so afraid of its raw, primal, pagan power to incite sexual, spiritual or social uprising. Even though many of our ancestors became Christian, we never forgot our hips, our lower thighs and our ass. We never forgot our root chakra. However we must remember that it has been thousands of years since those of Celtic, Gothic, Frank and Norse ancestry thrust their hips with wild abandon in pagan worship in celebration. Before they conquered us, they were themselves conquered.


The Judeo Christian empire all but stamped out their pagan heritage and almost completely disconnected them from Mother Earth, rendering them unable to move their waists and hips like they once did to raise Mother energy, like our ecstatic religions. For a long time, they stopped dancing altogether, for all dancing was pagan. Music and its use became the sole possession of the Church. The rise of Christianity led to them worshipping sitting down in a staid manner instead of dancing around bonfires and phallic symbols and reaching states of orgasmic bliss.

But the need to pound feet against earth and talk to Mother through movement cannot be denied. Indigenous Europeans continued dancing in private and/or using more ordered variations of pagan folk dances, rife with hidden meaning. Unfortunately though, dancing and having rhythm became something you learned, not something the music naturally “made you do”. You learned the proper posture, the way to lift the head high, keep the spine straight and move only the feet in ordered steps. Hearts raced, faces flushed and more primal longings were hidden under layers of clothes and hips that never moved. Focus shifted to the face, eyes, breasts, neck, arms and away from the pelvis and buttocks. The Mother earthly drums, receded to the background and if used at all delivered only metronomic, marching beats to keep time. Strings and wind instruments took precedence as did melody over rhythm. Sonatas, concertos began to be composed.




Dancing to "Father music"



Dancing to "Mother music"

This was Father music! It was music for the intellect and the heavens. Even today, when I need to think and write, classical music is my choice. However, it creates a kind of unfulfilled tension and unbalanced state if I listen to it for two or three days straight. I feel like I am losing it and need to grab hold of something real, instinctive and more primitive.

A little Mozart is good for the creative mind. A lot can drive you mad.


After being oppressed and re-shaped by the Roman Catholic empire for over two thousand years, the now assimilated Europeans tried to stamp the earth sexuality out of our African and Indian ancestors. But we held strong! Thanks to our stalwartness we were able to re-introduce Europeans to their pelvis, waists and hips and their pagan heritage.
Many who dispised rock n roll in the 50s and 60s, disco in the 70s and 80s and despise hip hop today have underlying racial and religious resentments. The idea of black, white, brown, red, yellow, gay, straight, rich poor gyrating together on a dance floor or head banging is sacrilegious to them.

First we mixed African rhythms with their “orderly” hymns and invented gospel. This gave birth to the blues which spawned jazz and rock n roll. Suddenly, white people were thrusting their hips once more! Next thing, they were integrating dance floors and schools. The evolution of music that reconnected us with Mother contributed more to racial, civil and planetary rights than any other factor. Once you reconnect with Mother, it is only a matter of time before you truly saw that we are all Mother’s children, black, white, red, yellow and everything in between. Even today, in a still highly patriarchal and hierarchical world the drum and bass rhythms continue to be feared for its primal and equal invocation to the souls of all men regardless of class or creed.



The re-introduction of the hips, pelvis and booty courtesy rock n roll, inspired by the African beat that never died in the hearts of the former slaves who birthed a new musical artform.


Whether it is Dave Grohl pounding out a heart stopping drum solo for Queens of The Stone Age or Destra encouraging everyone to wine down to the ground and back up, it is all pagan, Mother-energy worship tunes in disguise to help us remember our midsections and root chakra. This raw sensuality stands in direct opposition to the Judeo-Christian indoctrination we were given. When they say modern music is “devil” music, it is actually the demonized Feminine Divine to which they refer. It is the music that speaks to our hearts and natural instincts which they do not want us to trust. But little do they know; she is winning! She always wins! You cannot stop the ebb and flow of Universal Change. Now, in order to get young people to buy into Christian indoctrination, even traditionalists are forced to appropriate (albeit an anesthetized version) rock and hip hip to inspire any kind of heartfelt devotion.



More of us are re-connecting to our pagan heritage and with it, the ability to move our hips and shake our ass as we awaken Mother energy.

I had the pleasant surprise of attending a wedding of mostly white Trinidadians and witnessing young girls there who could “out passa passa” me any day (see what I said about stereotypes). Mother bless them! It warmed my heart to them totally abandon themselves to the music and summon up such potent female sexual energy in a way their mothers, grandmothers and aunties are still handicapped from religious and social prudery to do. Indeed many of the older white ladies there were thoroughly scandalized to see their granddaughters and nieces dancing like skets from Morvant. Their husbands on the other hand were trying hard to disguise their delight.

"Devil Music"- the term given to any rhythm that incites the lower chakras of lust, passion, desire and the Mother Energy. The power of the drum unites all under Mother earth. This is what the custodians of the patriarchal religions fear the most.


The world is changing. Men are finally growing up and getting rid of their infantile breast fixation. Now that we have explored and exaggerated the mammary glands to the point of ridiculous fake flotation devices, we are ready for something real. The butt, hips and thighs are now quickly becoming the most desired parts of a woman’s body, as far as sexuality goes. It is about time too! For too long our lower and nether regions have been ignored or given cursory appreciation only as far as it pleased a man’s needs.



One step closer to acknowledging the full female sexual being.

Ask any woman and she would much rather have a man sucking on her clit or even rimming her ass than slobbering on her breasts like an overgrown child. Respect for the butt is a small, first step back to recognition of women as complete sexual beings. This augers well for Mother Earth too, for we need to wean ourselves off sucking her tits dry like greedy infants and start appreciating her holistically, not just for what She can give us but for what she recycles out her Divine anus.