Forgiveness 101- The Final Chapter- THE POWER UP

Before we delve in to this final part of the discussion, let’s recap. 1. We have discovered that you are not a victim, nobody is because we are always responsible for what happens to us before, during or after the fact. (Forgiving Self) 2. You have the power of choice and when it is wielded wisely it can reverse events (if not literally) then in your perception and time stream, with results so real, it is all that matters. You are an eternal being with eternal opportunity to exercise your powers of freewill and so, there is nothing any human or group of humans can do that you cannot bounce back from (Forgiving Others). 3. Pain is a natural part of life. It is not evil nor does it equate suffering. It serves a vital purpose and when embraced and accepted with equal appreciation as pleasure currently is, you can achieve bliss and freedom in this Universe (Forgiving God).

After 911, at the New York concert and telethon for the heroes, the traumatised audience booed Richard Gere when he brought up the subject of embracing forgiveness.Little did that audience know that he was far more powerful than they thought and if they had half his awareness they would not have been so easily victimised and manipulated by greedy politicians to justify an war that enriched few but killed, maimed and impoverished many.

The Grand Architect made things in such a way that forgiveness is not only possible but can be offered unconditionally. Nursing hurts and seeking revenge are primal human qualities and though understandable, are not Divine nor are from the Divine mind. When we exercise our Divinity which stems from being enlightened and living our lives with Insights 1, 2 and 3 we can forgive sometimes inconceivable things, like gang rape, infanticide and being infected with deadly diseases because of someone’s negligence. Why? Because we become empowered. Power is the secret that makes forgiveness an inevitable. An elephant does not need to hold a grudge against an ant that bit it.

After 911, at the New York concert and telethon for the heroes, the traumatised audience booed Richard Gere when he brought up the subject of embracing forgiveness. One week after the event, they were not ready to hear such a thing. At that point in time, Americans felt they were victims, severely wronged by evildoers, abandoned by God, punished and vengeance was the only respectable, brave and manly solution to regain their power. If you understand the American mentality, you can see why.

In an interview, General Norman Schwartzkof was asked if he thought there was room for forgiveness toward the people who have harboured and abetted the terrorists who perpetrated the 9/11 attacks on America.
His answer: "I believe that forgiving them is God's function. Our job is simply to arrange the meeting."

What he does not realize is that his quest to arrange that meeting, millions have been impoverished, hundreds of thousands have been maimed and thousands killed. Revenge only brings bad karma.

Americans see themselves as “more blessed” than other non-Christian nations. Part of being blessed is living a life of effortless pleasure and power. Pleasure makes many feel rewarded for their faith. It does not matter if the majority of Americans worship Jesus who was as hippie as they came. America has materialism to excess (greed, obesity, corruption) despite being a “Christian” nation because a “hard life” is somehow an indicator of Godlessness. When tragedy strikes they immediately attribute it to some kind of punishment or gross evil. Religious surveys will demonstrate that the biggest trigger to loss of faith among Americans is the loss of financial security because they believe they are entitled to prosperity by virtue of being Christian and so if poverty strikes it means God has abandoned them to a life of hardship or does not exist. If they are attacked, it is seen as an unholy attack on “God’s people.”

It is very easy to mistake those who are forgiving as indifferent or worse yet weak. To our childish brains, we see the person being inconvenienced or enduring the pain or insult as the victim, when in fact, it is the other way around. Someone as enlightened as Mr. Gere comes across as detached from reality or a complete pansy for not exhibiting righteous anger and pounding his fists in the air. Little did that audience know that he was far more powerful than they thought and if they had half his awareness they would not have been so easily victimised and manipulated by greedy politicians to justify an war that enriched few but killed, maimed and impoverished many.

Yes it is all about power. It is about Ghandi knowing that despite human appearances he is more powerful than the entire British Empire and they are in fact the “victims” of their own unenlightened greed, racism and dominion-oriented thinking.

Forgiveness does not mean allowing yourself to be hurt over and over if that is not what you want. It does not mean avoiding doing everything in your power to defend the rights of those who need defending. Martin Luther King Junior forgiving those who were racist didn’t mean stopping his campaign for equal civil rights. Forgiving your rapist does not mean not testifying at their trial. If a friend has betrayed you, it does not mean you have to be close friends with them again just because you forgave them. If someone borrowed money from you and did not repay it and you forgive them it doesn’t mean you must lend them money again and it also does not mean you must not. Forgiveness, true forgiveness informed by your full mastery over the Universal Laws helps you make choices free from feelings of “suffering” whether manifested as hurt, betrayal, fear, anger or guilt. You retain your freewill, your bliss and most of all your power no matter what decision you make.

The one who hates is the true victim and the one to be pitied.

Yes it is all about power. It is about Ghandi knowing that despite human appearances he is more powerful than the entire British Empire and they are in fact the “victims” of their own unenlightened greed, racism and dominion-oriented thinking. It is the homophobe who feels the burning acidic hatred in his stomach when he sees a gay couple out and about. He is the one who is truly suffering. The “affront” he feels the gay couple have caused him is of course all in his mind. For the gay couple are not doing anything to him. While they just go about living their lives, the homophobe starts the seed of heart disease and cancer growing within him because of a false expectation, that everyone must conform to the social, religious and sexual mores that make him comfortable. He cannot accept sexual diversity is natural. Poor soul! It is about me knowing that I am actually the one with the power and my former abuser (if he is still a slave to his dysfunction) is the victim. I should therefore pity him, not hate him. If his life were in my hands I would spare it and I actually think I could do this. If one of us had to die, I would sacrifice myself so he could live. Here is where I have yet more work to do.

It is ironic that billions have fetishised Jesus Christ on the cross and elevated that universal demonstration of forgiveness to something supernatural. In doing so, they have missed the message completely. How many of us know of grannies and aunties clutching their rosary beads and praying before the suffering Christ every Sunday but unable to let go of long held resentments. They think forgiveness is some gift that will be mystically bestowed on them. They don’t get it! Jesus was able to forgive because he knew he was eternal, that there was nothing to fear and exercising his freewill to accept and submit to pain would create positive results. With same understanding and acceptance of the Creator’s Universal Laws we are all capable of forgiving what Jesus did and even more! Forgiveness is a Power Up because it comes from your own power in this world; your enlightenment, depth of unconditional love and trust in the Universe. No Diety can make you forgive. It has to come from you.

By fetishizing the powerful gesture of forgivness Jesus made and deifying him, turning it into something mystical many have been fooled into thinking that level of forgiveness is beyond our grasp as human beings. They pray their entire lives expecting some magical ability to come to them only it never does. Even the most devout can continue to harbour resentments to their grave, the power of forgiveness eluding them all their lives because their approach is entirely inaccurate.

Does a loving, capable and experienced mother feel personally hurt and offended if her toddler poops on the floor? No. What if that child throws his food bowl down on the ground in a tantrum? Does the loving, empowered mother feel so betrayed by that act of disrespect and ungratefulness; she needs to smite the toddler? No. What if that child screams, “I hate you Mommy!” when she denies candy or playtime? Is holding the child’s hand over a lit stove a just reaction? No. Why?

The mother knows and understands things the child does not. The mother is more powerful and knows the child will learn in time to manage his incontinence, stress and unwarranted anger which all stem from his immaturity and powerlessness. She feels pity for the child’s limitations in understanding and self-control. What do you think our Creator feels for us, puny, lost, afraid and mostly ignorant creatures stumbling around down here? We are even less capable than toddlers in relation to an Almighty Being and know as little as there is to know about the Universe as a two year old about his life, family, neighbourhood and world.

The power that enables forgiveness has been known to stop hardened criminals in their tracks and in Ms. Turner’s case, it made Ike see what a puny, weakling he is and like the child who realizes his temper tantrums do not provoke his mother, slink off to face his demons.

In a situation where a man is beating his wife, he is just as much to be pitied as she is. Even more so, if she realizes that he is actually lashing out at his own insecurity and self-hatred. The moment she realizes this, she has instantly become more powerful than he is. He is the petulant child and she is the mother. All that remains is for her to exercise her power of Choice and know that there is no reason to be afraid, even if death faces her. It is her cowardice that empowers his base ego. Like Tina Turner, stand calm, resolute, powerful radiating Divine trust, even while her abusive husband stands with a gun pointed at her head in her dressing room on the debut of her performance. Embracing and using this power is tremendous! It has been known to stop hardened criminals in their tracks and in Ms. Turner’s case, it made Ike see what a puny, weakling he is and like the child who realizes his temper tantrums do not provoke his mother, slink off to face his demons.

When we are less than powerful and Divine, we scream, yell and hit back at toddlers or even fear them. The same can be said when we address the ignorance and disempowered actions of those we call the dregs of society with overdone outrage, demanding an eye for an eye. It is caused by our own sense of disempowerment and our own insecurities. Do you know many children are needlessly punished for embarrassing their parents while the parent takes no responsibility for his or her feelings of embarrassment and the true cause of it? Even worse than a child feeling responsible for a parent’s ego are we humans feeling responsible for bolstering the self-esteem of our Creator.

We love to present a version of God to the world who shares our petty grudges.

When we try to present the Creator as one who can be vexed, insulted, hurt enough by our puny actions, it needs spectacularly sadistic retribution to assuage Its wrath we cripple billions. We keep the Power Up of Forgiveness out of reach and in doing so, we cripple ourselves and delay our spiritual progress which is strongly linked to our physical progress as a species. They are in fact one and the same.

We will never conquer all the various forms of suffering (pleasure or pain induced) that hinder our human race until we are at peace with the Universe, its systems and stop demanding more than what is fair because of our feelings of lack. One of the ways we demand more of our fair share is making it our duty to punish others. Revenge is a greedy action and seeking vengeance for illusionary blows to one’s ego is even more gluttonous. Where there is gluttony, there is sure to be suffering.



The reason revenge and punishment is gluttonous is because the Universe already has systems in place to return equal reactions to everyone’s actions. We started this discussion with the Law of Consequence and we will end it with that same Law as well. This time, we will refer to it as karma.

There is no need to punish anyone for anything. If we are truly an enlightened society, we would see that a criminal, no matter how heinous and sadistic is actually living in a self-imposed hell already. Karma never skips a beat, whether in this lifetime or the infinite one to come. I am not saying we should let dangerous criminals go free. By all means we need to protect our families and communities! However, our childish and ungodly desire to ill treat those who have ill treated us has only resulted in more suffering. The more inhumane prisons we create, the more criminals we create to fill them and the more hardened they become. The countries with the death penalty have the highest violent crimes and murder rates per capita. Like I said, karma does not skip a beat. When we take more from the Universe than is our fair share, the Law of Consequence demands we pay it back equally. When we forgive we gain Cosmic Credit and are able to influence not only our soul growth but that of other people. Let me illustrate:

A man invades your home and he tortures and kills your two of your four children. You have a choice of:

A. Seek retribution by putting all your energy into inflicting the same on the man.

This will involve time, money and sacrifice on your part but you will of course fuel it by your righteous indignation and grief. Your surviving loved ones will no doubt have to also sacrifice to accommodate your need for revenge and you will not be able to comfort them. Your neglect of them is of course going to invite bad karma. Since you need your anger to fuel this vengeance, you will not be willing to heal as it would soften your resolve. You are inflicting hurt on yourself and shoving off any who try to get you to heal. This was an opportunity for many to reach out to you and in doing so, create good in your life and theirs, but you have to quell that positive process. Since the Law of Attraction has not stopped working, your anger, hate keeps bringing more reasons to feel angry and hateful and your health suffers. Finally, when you do get your way and he is tortured and killed, it dawns on you that it does not bring back your children and the remaining ones you have hurt with your neglect. The loss is still there. The grief is still there. Your anger at yourself, the murderer and God is still there.

Worse yet, your hunger for revenge has alienated, sickened and depleted you and you are acting from a place of victimization. You still think you are helpless, life is unfair, God is a sadistic asshole or at best an apathetic entity. You still feel unsafe and powerless in your everyday life. You are a sitting duck for another misfortune. Ever met someone whose entire life was just one tragedy after another? It is because they are playing to the Laws of Consequence a melancholy song for which it will find a complimentary vocal and music video. You are about to set off a chain of misfortune that will lead to your ultimate defeat unless you take your power back. You have extended the negative influence of the killer further than it needed to go.



B. Forgive yourself, the man, God and the Universe.

As hard as it may be, accept your role in making this misfortune possible, from your most distant contribution to the system that allowed it, to the more personal ways you left your family at risk. Resolve to change this positively and in doing so take back your power and understanding that you are not a random victim, indiscriminately abandoned and exposed to suffering. There is a reason to things. Connect with the eternal existence of your children. Do what you need to do in order to fully appreciate they are alive and unharmed in this Universe. Many who do this also are made aware that their departed loved ones are not even angry or hurt about their death and accept it was part of the plan. This will help you forgive the murderer for he did not hurt your children’s souls. He sped up their journey through this Universe and made you say goodbye to them in their current incarnation earlier than you would have wished to. But you will see them in other ways and know they are far better off than you or the murderer will ever be. These two actions will bring into sharp focus the good this bitter medicine has brought into your life and the lives of those around you enabling you to forgive God and the Universe. You are free! Hurt, loss and echoes of the tragedy will linger but will be balanced by your power, connection to your children’s souls and trust in God/Universe leading to a greater sense of acceptance and inner peace.

But what about the murderer?

You do not have to personally seek justice. The Universe is just because it exacts equal results for equal actions. The Universe and by extension the laws of the land will dole out justice no matter what you do. By forgiving you have not only freed yourself and curtailed the suffering but you have not gluttonously taken more from the Cosmos than is your fair due. Demanding an eye for the eye that you have lost does not give you back your sight. It only handicaps another and spreads the ill-effects of blindness further.

The Universe does not owe anyone anything, because everything is provided as required, as attracted, as is karmic justice. However, when you use your enlightenment and power deliver more than what you were given (See. Jesus’ parable of the talents), by the very same Law of Consequence, great things are due to come your way. As all spiritual leaders before you who ascended to a higher plane, you are well on your way to a similar reward.

C. Do the entire Forgiveness Power Up in Option B PLUS extend your inner power to others, including the one who wronged you.

Let’s say the murderer is caught and sentenced to death. You advocate against the death penalty. You meet with the person and tell him the hell he put you through but ultimately that you forgive him and since the loss of your children, you have brought positive changes into your life, those of your remaining children and your community. You tell him that you will advocate for his sentence to be reduced to life in prison because you do not need him to die to avenge your children’s deaths. One death does not justify another, his life is not equal to the lives of your children, who are in fact still alive in spirit. In addition, you track down his origins, his family history and his victims and you reach out to them, helping where you can. You are creating Cosmic Credit.

The Universe does not owe anyone anything, because everything is provided as required, as attracted, as is karmic justice. However, when you use your enlightenment and power deliver more than what you were given (See. Jesus’ parable of the talents), by the very same Law of Consequence, great things are due to come your way. As all spiritual leaders before you who ascended to a higher plane, you are well on your way to a similar reward.

Are you ready for even more power for even more intense adventures to come with far reaching effects on the Cosmos when you wield your power of Choice? Your path to perfection and ultimate union with The One continues. It always does, into infinity.

It is not a permanent vacation from the ups and downs of Universal existence. Power begets more power and with greater power come greater responsibilities. You will be going through the very same ups and downs of Universal existence with all its hard work, adventures, cliffhangers, difficult decisions, pain, pleasure but this time with the abilities of a superhero instead of a mere mortal and greater capacity for bliss by exercising that power correctly. There is no lazy cloud lounging and harp playing. Your path to perfection and ultimate union with The One continues. It always does, into infinity.

Forgiveness 101- Part Three THE PURPOSE OF PAIN

When we were newborns, the first nourishment we had was the sweet breast milk of our mother. Yes, breast milk is sweet (don’t ask me how I know) and ever since that first taste, we instinctively gravitate towards sweet and associate it with comfort, nourishment and pleasure. As we got older, little by little, we started incorporating different tastes and began to train our palettes.

It took many of us a long time to develop mature taste buds that can appreciate bitter and some still have not. For those who have, food is alive in ways we never imagined.

Sour flavors gave us an adrenaline rush and salty flavours made us salivate. When they were melded with the familiar sweet, comforting taste we already knew and loved, they made irresistible taste sensations. But one flavor continued to challenge our sensibilities, the flavour of bitter. From medicine to vegetables, we resisted all attempts to allow it to activate its receptor buds on the back of our tongues.

We had no idea what we were missing.



It took many of us a long time to develop mature taste buds that can appreciate bitter and some still have not. For those who have, food is alive in ways we never imagined. Now we enjoy not just bittersweet chocolate and coffee but sautéed spinach, watercress and a host of other vegetables, green, acrid and bursting with essential minerals vital for our health. When paired with other flavors, tasty is elevated to mind blowing delicious and food is elevated to fine cuisine. My personal favorite, carili (an extremely bitter pod vegetable) fried crispy and served with crispy fried fish, dhal (a cumin and roasted garlic flavoured yellow split pea soup) and sada roti (Trinidadian Indian flat bread).

Amazing how the more bitter it is, the more nourishing a plant tends to be. Where would we be without aloe vera, hops, yarrow and chamomile? The more poisonous, the more potent the healing medicine to be found within it, once processed with care and interestingly enough that extends to the painful and deadly venom of certain insects and reptiles. Yet, most people are not endeared by this at all and they certainly are not endeared by the bitter aspects of life, equally healing and nourishing they might be.

We live our lives feeling we have “lost” utopia. But the truth is that the utopia we crave is a figment of a fearful and childish imagination.

It is still taking many of us longer still to appreciate the delicacies of the darker, painful and yes, bitter aspects of life. When it comes to appreciating the nourishment to be had by the challenges of restriction, effort, sadness, loss, pain, and confusion we are still immature children, pushing away our plate of life’s green leafy vegetables and protesting the Divine medicine given to us daily for our benefit. Why?

The reason is simple, we have been socialised to demonise anything that is not pleasurable, sweet, easy flowing and easily conquered. We have been taught an unnatural and contradictory thing; pleasure = bliss and is Divine; while pain = suffering and is evil. For many of us, our introduction to the theological explanation for our existence was that our Creator intended for us to exist in a utopia of pleasure and plenty but sadness and pain come into the world because of evil and disobedience. Therefore pain equals some kind of punishment while pleasure equals Divine reward.

Amazing how the more bitter it is, the more poisonous, the more potent the healing medicine to be found.

We live our lives feeling we have “lost” utopia. But the truth is that the utopia we crave is a figment of a fearful and childish imagination. Pain, loss, sadness, disappointment, black holes, thunderstorms, quicksand, bitter taste buds, prickly plants and venomous creatures were always a vital part of the Grand Architect’s equation. What we lost was the ability to face these aspects of nature with respect and gratitude. What we lost was our fearlessness in the face of death and inner peace that stemmed from acceptance and appreciation that we are forever. Today, we continue to seek utopia by running away from the messages and medicine pain offers.

Out of every horrible situation, something good can happen. The moment you encounter a situation that is so evil, nothing good can come of it then you have discovered something unforgivable but as we discussed before, that is not the nature of the Universe we live in. While I may not be Christian myself, for many people the gruesome death of Jesus resulted in wonderful things for their lives. If African slavery had never happened, Obama would not be President of the United States, calypso, soca, Trini Mas, jazz, blues, rock and roll would not exist.

If you could only taste sweet, would you even know what was truly sweet and what was not?

Want to hear a strange personal admission? Not all of what came out of being sexually abused was bad. It made me the person I am today. I learned from an early age that adults are not always right and are often fearful of the truth and do not always KNOW the truth. That was huge! It liberated me at a young age. I became more compassionate. I became aware of myself and the world in ways most girls my age did not until much later. If I was never abused, I would not be writing this now or speaking of it to others and perhaps helping those who have been through the same situation. Therefore I cannot in all honesty feel absolute anger against my abuser and against God for letting it happen.

Our pagan ancestors understood the fine line and precarious balance of pain and pleasure more than we do today. They took time to consider and integrate the darkness around them. They used pain as part of their rites of passage. Pain and fear were things to be faced, conquered and in the process spark growth of the soul. They were not to be sanitised, demonised or erased. For this reason, they revered Gods of Destruction as well as Gods of Creation with equal fervour. When we erased this more balanced spirituality with one where pain was vilified as punishment from our Creator, instead of a natural part of life, we created a major imbalance in ourselves.



Religious salespeople exploit the personal tragedy, insecurity and hardship of people. From the tele-evangelists to the latest New Age guru and “How To Get Whatever You Want ” self-help authors, their solicitation always involves promises of a life where there is only eternal bliss and joy. In the run up to that, they offer a tranquilizing dogma and membership in a psuedo-utopian brotherhood which often “love bombs” new converts and promises to hide them from the complex realities of life, especially change. At the times of great uncertainty and despair, this seems like a wonderful relief. A world ruled by an unchanging God with unchanging principles and an afterlife that will also be unchangingly pleasant and perfect.

Eternal bliss like eternal torment contradicts the Law of Freewill. If we were unable to feel anything but happiness, we would be robotic Stepford Wife creatures of the Divine. The other Universal Law contradicts is Polarity, otherwise known as Contrast which is a universal essential to create a point of reference.

But a major spiritual awakening occurs when people realize they would be bored stiff in “Christian heaven”. They want challenges. They want an eternity of new epic adventures with nail biting, cliff hangers and adrenaline rushes. They want to push the boundaries and grow in the process. They want to continue to have freewill in the next life. They want to be able to use that freewill to throw a spanner in the works. Not even the most benign, politically correct, fluffy children’s programme set in a fun, cushy fairy world is without some kind of contrast or challenge that needs resolution to spark a learning curve in the child watching it. When you arrive at a stage in your spiritual development where eternal bliss becomes not only intellectually lazy but beyond childish, you are ready to appreciate why pain is not an evil or an unfair thing.

The older, pagan religions recognise the Law of Polarity in the Universe and celebrate creation as well as destruction as equally Divine.

We were designed to grow and no growth can happen without polarity, contrast and momentum and anything else is unnatural and nightmarish. Eternal bliss like eternal torment contradicts the Law of Freewill. If we were unable to feel anything but happiness, we would be robotic Stepford Wife creatures of the Divine. The other Universal Law contradicts is Polarity, otherwise known as Contrast which is a universal essential to create a point of reference. Let me explain:

Imagine if you suddenly found yourself in a dimension that resembled the infinity white studio background used in commercials or the “Loading Programme” in the movie The Matrix. The ground, ceiling, everything is white and it stretches on forever, flat, featureless. You can run for a mile and still when you looked around, everything looked the same, in fact, you lose all sense of direction and in no time at all, a little of your sanity. Then suddenly you see a spot that is darker than everything else around it. You will eagerly make for that spot with great relief and it will become your point of reference.

Both extremes of a life of pleasure only and pain only rob us our universal reference, a true sense of and appreciation for our existence which is essential if we are to actively chart our destiny. Pleasure without contrast or purpose leads to stagnation, sickness and ultimately suffering. Pain with no contrast or purpose leads to the exact same thing.

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If every experience you had since you were born was pleasant and on an even keel, you would suffer from amnesia about much of your past. Days would blend into the other, featureless and uneventful. You will also cease to be creative for there is no necessity to do so. The same would apply if everything you experienced since infancy was painful. A starving child in Sudan, born into pain has no memory of day to day just a featureless span of monotone suffering and is unable to envision anything new. Believe it or not, a spoiled child in Beverly Hills who never had a single challenge in life and lived in effortless luxury also experiences the same creative inertia, amnesia and yes suffering. For the child in Sudan, the suffering is visceral. For the overly coddled Beverly Hills teen, it is emotional.

Pain is not evil, it is natural and we were designed to feel it for a reason just as we were designed with our bitter taste buds. So the first thing you need to do is stop demonising your Divinely created pain receptors and instead, thank God for this built in mechanism to deter, caution and slow down our push forward.

Both extremes of a life of pleasure only and pain only rob us our universal reference, a true sense of and appreciation for our existence which is essential if we are to actively chart our destiny. Pleasure without contrast or purpose leads to stagnation, sickness and ultimately suffering. Pain with no contrast or purpose leads to the exact same thing. Without contrast we have no idea what is up or down, black or white and all the shades in between. If everything you ate tasted sweet, would you even know what sweet truly is? Add a little sour to the sweet or bitter and suddenly, sweet has dimension and can be measured and fully appreciated. Contrast gives shape and scope to the Universe. It also assists in our ability to remember which is just as vital as our ability to imagine, for one cannot happen without the other.

Pain is not evil, it is natural and we were designed to feel it for a reason just as we were designed with our bitter taste buds. So the first thing you need to do is stop demonising your Divinely created pain receptors instead, thank God for it! How else would you know you have stepped on a thorn? How else you would know you are doing something that you should proceed with greater caution doing? Pain whether physical, emotional or mental is a built in mechanism to deter, caution and slow down our push forward. When the pain hits, you can choose to stop or continue. Sometimes when you continue, pleasure follows.



Just like bitter turns sweet to sensational, the most blissful sensation we can experience in our human bodies, orgasm, is a complex mixture of pleasure nerves enhanced with pain nerves firing in perfect harmony. Without that depth pain provides, pleasure alone feels as unbearable, like being mercilessly tickled until numbness sets in or something so sickly sweet, it is nauseating. True bliss happens when pleasure and pain are experienced with purpose and balance leading to a sustainable experience.



By surrendering to the natural childbirth experience more women are experiencing orgasm (bliss) during childbirth. Watch a news report on this growing phenomenon here.

For millenia, women were told by the Church that they were cursed with childbirth pain by God. The same Church persecuted and murdered thousands of women for the secret art of midwifery. These wise women knew how to aid women in childbirth to have a natural, complete and spiritual experience in the process. They were replaced by callous male doctors who treated with the female’s physiology as a painful problem, not a beautiful blessing.

Today, the medical world is re-discovering the benefits of midwives and doulas. Natural birth methods that allow women to truly surrender to the experience has resulted in an increasing number of women experiencing orgasm (pain & pleasure in perfect harmony) during childbirth. Could it be that as women rediscover their bodies and reclaim their sexuality and right to pleasure free themselves of shame, we are literally reversing how we “perceive” an experience that was seen as “suffering” and punishment? If so, this is small indication that pain is not suffering and not anti-bliss. It is all a matter of perception. We have the power to live in complete bliss, while experiencing pain.

We cannot ignore that the dark, dangerous, destructive side of life is part of us and essential to the experience of life. We try to stamp it out but it always manifests itself.

We may not like our intestinal bacteria, maggots and leeches but they serve a purpose. So too do earthquakes, serial killers and the bastard who cut you off in traffic. They exist because not only is there is free will and self-actualisation but polarity and momentum. The more you understand those mechanisms, the less suffering you will feel because you will appreciate that pain and pleasure working together create movement, change and growth. You are part of that growth whether you like it or not, so you might as well learn how to like it instead of fearing it, railing against it and finding religious ways to bury your head in the sand. You are an eternal work in progress and the pleasure/pain cycle, the Yin/Yang, the positive, negative poles create the currents that make your life and growth possible.

Break Your Pleasure Addiction!

Millions are suffering from seratonin and dopamine overload because of entitlement, ingratitude and addiction to pleasure that has led to a low pain threshold.

We are addicted to pleasure. Not bliss (which is a perfect balance of pleasure and pain and an enlightened perception of things) but the one-note, one dimensional, childish taste of cloying sweetness. The result? Seratonin overload! We are literally ill from sloth, apathy and a general feeling of purposelessness. Millions complain that they are unable to “feel” anything. Millions more are depressed even if they have no reason to be sad. Sadness (emotional pain) with no purpose to it! Now that is suffering! People are being born with lower and lower pain thresholds and expect such an unfair, unnatural amount of pleasure and ego codling by others that of course life and people will always be disappointing. We have people with every conceivable comfort, loving friends and family, opportunity and influence feeling depressed about their life. Why?

The Law of Polarity together with the Law of Consequence demand that if we go to the extreme one way, the other side must get more extreme to compensate. When the “easy life” quickly becomes bland, boring it leads us to behavioural extremes to add some kind of meaning to a featureless, effortless existence. Some of the ways people stabilise out this pain/pleasure imbalance are harmless. Many demonstrate their conquest over the illusion that pain = suffering through body art, piercings, BDSM sex and extreme sports. Teenagers choose to delve into beautiful sadness of Sylvia Plath, emo and Goth Culture. It scares and scandalises the living daylights out of the “normal” folk who have forgotten of a time when their ancestors willingly submitted to sad, scary, painful experiences and delved into the darkness. However today most people do it without any kind of spiritual rationale and sense of balance, trust in the Universe/Creator/Self and so, fall prey to dangerous extremes; addiction to hard drugs, self-mutilation and unhealthy thrills. We now have increasing numbers of young people who need to cut, starve, scare themselves or push their bodies to physical extremes, just to feel alive.

The Law of Polarity together with the Law of Consequence demand that if we go to the extreme one way, the other side must get more extreme to compensate. When the “easy life” quickly becomes bland, boring it leads us to behavioural extremes to add some kind of meaning to a featureless, effortless existence.

One of the benefits of pain, we have discounted is that it forces us to slow down. Pain is life’s yellow and red traffic light. It is our cue to proceed carefully, surrender, let go, retrace our steps, rest and take time out to heal. Unfortunately, being driven by our pleasure addiction, we have found ingenious ways to circumvent pain with technology. If a boulder stands in our way, we blast it with dynamite. If we invade the ecosystem and upset the balance that keeps a virus in check, we find ways to kill the virus so we can continue invading where we are not supposed to. We live in a world where we no longer have to do things the slow, hard and painstaking way because everything conveniently designed around instant gratification and avoiding hard work. As a result we do not stop to consider the impact of our actions on ourselves, others and our planet.

Many who are rich and famous struggle to deserve the success, admiration and power they have. They know somewhere deep down they did not really earn it. So they feel constant guilt, leading them to throw it all away and ruin their lives to the morbid satisfaction of those who resent their good fortune.

When we move through life with such haste while addicted to pleasure and feeling overly entitled we often do not notice the hand of God/Universal Laws at work and the contribution and sacrifice of others who bring what we need into our lives. Is it any wonder we have to dig deeper to feel grateful?

Many who are rich and famous struggle to deserve the success, admiration and power they have. They know somewhere deep down they did not really earn it. So they feel constant guilt, leading them to throw it all away and ruin their lives to the morbid satisfaction of those who resent their good fortune. Their state of inner lack and powerlessness disables their ability to be grateful and see their wealth as a gift of power to be used for the benefit of mankind. On the flip side of this, others take what they have for granted and seek more than their fair share at the expense of others. Powerlessness and lack are also driving their actions. Guilt and greed are siblings that come from egg of ingratitude. Lack of awareness and gratitude for the difficult processes that make our comfort possible and taking responsibility for the power we have, makes us extremely entitled and easily affronted for no good reason or extremely apathetic and discontent for no reason at all. We experience suffering far more than necessary as a result and the harder it is to forgive.

Amazing freedom awaits you my friend when you let go of your pleasure addiction and “punishment” mentality. You will discover the ability to delight in things others find tedious achieving what many call “Zen”; the ultimate acceptance of how things are. Many of your feelings of “unfairness” and “affront” will become mere illusions. This is my friends is the source of forgiveness. Before you can forgive anyone, you need to “forgive” or accept the entire Universal experience and its Architect. Yes, I said it! You need to forgive God for putting you through this experience.

No slow painful climb means no thrilling acceleration. So just accept things and enjoy the ride!

Like that painful immunization injection or exposure to chicken pox your loving mother made you endure, the negative aspects of our Universe are not designed to permanently ruin our existence but perfect our soul and build our antibodies. You are fortunate to be given this opportunity to learn and grow, no matter how hard the lesson and medicine might be. Nobody is doing anything to you! Nobody can! You are an eternal part of a Universe that allows polarity. You attracted it. You can choose how to perceive it. You can change it by exercising your freewill. You can heal from anything for you are eternal. You can experience bliss in the bitter medicine because you know the bitter taste is just as much a blessing as the sweet taste. You want multi-dimensional flavor in order to keep learning and growing. You accept that this momentum is made possible because of polarity. A roller coaster would not be much fun if it was level. The slow painful ascent is essential for the euphoric descent. Together they create a blissfully exciting life experience. Just let go and enjoy the ride!

So hopefully now you can begin accessing the knowledge and thinking that helps you gain the Forgiveness Power Up. But want to know why I call it a Power Up? That’s next.